Unequally Yolked: Builders, Destroyers, and the Cost of Carrying Dead Weight


There’s a truth we often ignore until it slaps us in the face:

Being unequally yolked will cost you more than you can afford.


Let’s strip the religious context for a minute—because unequally yolked isn’t just about romantic relationships. It’s bigger than that. It’s your job. Your circle. Your hustle. Your so-called friends. Your daily routines. It’s every situation where you’re tethered to something or someone moving in a completely different direction—or worse, pulling you backward while you’re trying to soar.


I speak from personal experience.

I’ve been tied to people and situations that looked promising on the outside but were poison on the inside. Jobs that drained more than they paid. Friends who smiled but secretly competed. Projects that started with purpose but ended in pain.

Why?

Because I ignored the signs that we were unequally yolked.


Let’s break this down.


A yoke is meant for two who can walk together in alignment—same pace, same direction, shared load. But when one party is dragging, stubborn, or simply uninterested in moving forward, the whole mission suffers.

You can’t win the race of purpose when you’re hitched to someone who’s content playing in puddles.


And let me say this plainly:

You can take the pig out of the mud, but you can’t take the mud out of the pig.


Some people are addicted to chaos. Some jobs thrive on dysfunction. Some circles celebrate mediocrity. And if you stay in that mess thinking your light will change them, you’ll find yourself dimming just to survive the storm.


Not everyone is meant to be on your journey.

Not everyone deserves access to your energy.

Not every opportunity is a blessing in disguise—some are distractions dressed in designer.


Here’s the truth:

In every relationship—personal or professional—you’re going to get one of two things:

A builder or a destroyer.


A builder supports, uplifts, sharpens, stretches.

A destroyer criticizes, manipulates, drains, and distracts.


Your job is to figure out which one you’ve got. And then decide how long you’re willing to let them influence your path.


Because while you’re busy dragging dead weight, opportunities that were naturally yours are passing you by.

You’re missing your high calling. Not because you’re unqualified—but because you’re unavailable. You’re yoked to something that doesn’t serve your purpose.


Let me be blunt:

Time is not on your side.


You don’t have forever to keep giving second chances.

You don’t have forever to sit in a job that stifles your gift.

You don’t have forever to entertain friends who celebrate your stagnation more than your growth.

You don’t have forever to ignore your calling while waiting on people who’ll never match your stride.


So here’s my call to you:

Start auditing your yolks.

Who or what are you tethered to that’s keeping you stuck?

Who’s building with you, and who’s quietly bulldozing your future?


It’s time to unyoke.

Not in anger, not in arrogance—but in alignment.


Because freedom, elevation, and purpose are calling.

But they won’t wait forever.


Make the decision.

And make it fast.




If this resonated with you, it’s not a coincidence. It’s confirmation.

Drop a comment or share with someone who needs to stop playing in the mud and start walking in purpose.


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