So Many People Know a Version of Me That Doesn’t Exist Anymore


There’s something strange about growth that nobody really talks about.


The people who knew you during your weakest moments often struggle to accept your strongest version.


Some people remember you when you lacked confidence.
Some remember you when you tolerated disrespect.
Some remember you before discipline sharpened you.
Before pain matured you.
Before life forced you to evolve.


And because of that, they keep speaking to an old version of you that no longer exists.


But growth does that.


Growth changes your mindset.
Growth changes your standards.
Growth changes your circle, your habits, your reactions, and sometimes even your silence.


The problem is… many people expect you to stay emotionally frozen in the role they met you in.


The “too nice” version.
The “easily manipulated” version.
The “available for everyone” version.
The version that hadn’t yet learned the cost of constantly shrinking themselves for others.


But life teaches.


Pain teaches.
Failure teaches.
Betrayal teaches.
Pressure teaches.


And if you listen carefully enough, growth becomes unavoidable.


That’s why growth is beautiful.


Not because it’s easy — because it’s earned.


A tree does not apologize for no longer being a seed.


It doesn’t explain itself to people who only remember the pot it started in.


It simply grows.


And maybe that’s the lesson:
Stop exhausting yourself trying to explain your evolution to people committed to misunderstanding your transformation.


Some people will only know your past version.


Let them.


The people meant for your future will recognize who you’ve become.


Kerwin Boxill


For more on this subject check out my book 

The Cost Of Being The Reliable One and 

Judge Not? It Should be Judge First!




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